BEGINS WEDNESDAY, JULY 3rd
14 WEEKS OF TRANSFORMATIVE SELF-WORK AND SUPPORTIVE COMMUNITY
This course is a deep dive that will teach you how to utilize the Internal Family Systems model within the practice of meditation and in daily life. Participants should have experience with parts work and before applying for this course.
This course will explore the full process of re-parenting our managers, exiles, and firefighters from a place of Self-energy. More than just IFS, this course also integrates the deep spirituality of Tibetan Buddhist view and meditative technique. Ultimately, this course is an invitation to envision and embody a personalized and unique sense of path, direction, and progress towards becoming Self-led, self-actualization, and genuine freedom.
This is not group therapy, but rather an opportunity to learn how to become your own therapist.
PRE-REQUISITE: You must have completed the online course UNSTUCK with me -OR- be familiar with parts work/IFS and have a consistent meditation practice. If this is not you — please see my other online immersion CHRYSALIS on this website.
How it works
* Weekly video dharma talks
*Multiple audio meditation downloads each week
*Weekly handouts and journal prompts
*Live video calls each Wednesday, 8:40 pm-10:00pm Eastern Time // 5:40pm-7:00pm Pacific Time
*All calls are recorded in case you miss them
*Optional private sessions with Ralph
*Sliding scale option available
Phase One
SELF-ENERGY
Meditation is an ideal environment for learning to recognize when the key characteristics of Self are present and begin to be able access Self-energy on command. Our first two weeks are devoted to this alone, though Self-energy is a constant theme throughout the entire series.
Phase Two
MANAGERS and FIREFIGHTERS
If we are to access the core wounds and beliefs that are running our lives, we must first earn the trust of our pre-emptive defense system. We devote a full month getting to know our Managers, learning how to empathically communicate within ourselves, and beginning to draw our inner family tree.
Phase Three
EXILES
Having obtained full permission from our inner system to go further, we begin to relating to our more extreme parts. You will learn processes for earning the trust of firefighters. You will learn the exile-healing processes of Bearing Witness, Retrieval, and Unburdening as well. Most importantly, you will have a supportive community of fellow self-healers to walk with you through this.
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TESTIMONIALS FROM PREVIOUS ONLINE COURSE PARTICIPANTS
"Ralph is an amazing teacher, and one of the most direct-from-the-heart speakers I have ever had the privilege of listening to. I am more inclined to liken him to a musician than a teacher, because it seems like his soul is just pouring out, without the obfuscating bullshit that everything usually comes wrapped in when people talk to each other." -Sarah
All courses are guided by Ralph's principle of radical non-pathology, the audacious notion that nothing is wrong with any of us; that the troubles in our lives are a paradoxical invitation to grow and discover genuine confidence.
“The lessons and practices I have done are amazing. Ralph is an awesome teacher and I feel his wisdom and good intentions every time I listen and/or meditate. I give this course a 10, as I will definitely be recommending it to others.”
-Sheila, online course participant
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“Your guidance brought meaning to things I've read about but never connected with and now see as healing and light. Thank you again.”
-Jeanette, online course participant
TESTIMONIALS FROM THE 20,000+ PEOPLE WHO HAVE DONE PARTS WORK MEDITATION WITH RALPH ON INSIGHT TIMER
“Words cannot describe how grateful I am to have found such healing… Thank you so very much!” - Cheri
“EXCELLENT. Whoa, whoa whoa! So glad I did this, and I’ll be coming back for sure. The instructor and instructions couldn’t be more mind-blowingly amazing.” -Holly
“Deep and enriching. Inspiring.” -Carol
“This is the deep self-reflection and clarity I’ve been looking for.” -Beth R.
“This will take some practice but I can already see great benefits for me and will return often. Thank you so much!” - Alex
“Powerful and profound.” -Skye
“Left me with tears of anguish, joy, and release running down my face. You have helped me open my heart today.” -Caz
“So many cleaning and healing tears. Thank you for this practice. I’m feeling better. More love and compassion for a very hurt part of me.I will come back and do this again.”
“Amazing! I’m just in awe. So much compassion and realness in the delivery of this practice. Left with peace and love.” - Sharon
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this course self-paced or are there scheduled sessions?
Both!
Self-paced portion: Each Thursday, you’ll receive an email with a link and a password to a private webpage that hosts a video dharma talk (20-50 mins), download links for 1 or 2 guided meditations for the week, and a handout to go with the lecture. There is also discussion forum with journaling prompts for the week and some suggested reading as well.
Scheduled portion: Each Wednesday, there’ll be a live call at 8:40pm ET via Zoom. This call is our opportunity to share our experiences, ask questions, and for me to offer additional ideas and instructions for the week. If you can’t make the call, it will be recorded and shared with the group the next day. Note: Zoom is a free service that you do not have to sign up for. You just click the link I send each week and you’re on!
The online thing feels a bit impersonal to me.
Much to my surprise, I have found the opposite to be true. People have gone deeper and have been more committed to my online courses than any workshop I’ve ever offered in person. There is something special about attending these workshops in your own home and on your own meditation cushion or chair. Furthermore, you’re not alone. I’m always here to answer questions and emails and the live weekly calls have also surprised me with their transformative capacity.
I myself was hesitant about teaching online at first. My experience has defied my assumptions in a big way.
This sounds like a lot. I’m busy. What if I fall behind?
This is an immersion course -- but it actually sounds like more than it is. This course requires that you sit for meditation once daily. Then, you’ll just need to watch an informative and inspiring video at some point during the week, spend 10-20 mins journaling, and engage in one coaching call to connect with really cool people. It’s pretty easy to switch out time you might usually spend on Netflix/phone scrolling to make room for this.
That said, people do fall behind all the time and most people get caught up at some point. You’ll see a testimonial on the webpage from someone who didn’t do one of the courses until it was almost over and was very emphatic about how much benefit she still received from it.
What happens during the optional private sessions if I choose to add them?
These sessions can be used to help you make the material and practices more specific to you and your life situation. People tend to use these sessions to go deeper with any emotional experiences and life changes that inherently arise when doing self-work. We can also address any auxiliary issues that come up in the course such as lack of motivation, trouble committing, problems in your intimate relationship(s), etc.
Honestly, these sessions tend to be very powerful for people. While I wish to avoid making promises as it is different with each person, I have seen people effect profound shifts and reach surprising levels of resolve within themselves in a single session.
I struggle with emotional issues such as PTSD, depression, anxiety, addiction, a personality disorder, or psychosis. Is this course appropriate for me?
This course was made specifically for you. As a trauma, depression, and addiction survivor myself, my work specifically speaks to people who struggle with emotional and behavioral disruptions and patterns.
We will be moving safely and methodically through whatever arises for you in this course. You will be invited to move at your own pace and only do as much or as little as is right for you. You will be given revolutionary tools to relate to and heal the emotional activations in your life. You will also be given tools and practices for coping and calming down in the event anything becomes too much for you. Overwhelm, after all, is the enemy of healing.
That said, the registration form does ask for some information that pertains to this so that I can be aware of all the issues and concerns people are bringing with them into the course. In some cases, I will request a follow up phone call to ensure this is a good fit, and in rare cases, I will have to inform someone that this course is not appropriate for them.
Is any experience with meditation necessary?
Nope. We’ll start with foundational practices for calming tension and busy-mindedness and will deepen from there.
I’ve been meditating for a really long time; will this be redundant for me?
Also nope. Even the foundational meditation practices we will be exploring emphasize a deeper somatic (bodily) awareness, breath techniques almost never taught in the mindfulness or even yoga worlds, and bodies of insight and theory that integrate Eastern practice and Western psychology in a new way.
I’m an atheist or adhere to a religion other than Buddhism. Will this conflict with my beliefs?
Definitely not. All teachings are 100% secular, do not ask you to believe in anything, and are well aligned with the core principles found in any religion: love, awareness, compassion, intentional living, and so forth. All teachings are also rooted in evidence-based modalities, neuroscience, and peer reviewed scientific findings.
I’m here, I’m queer, I’m POC, not able-bodied, trans, neurodivergent, or feel marginalized by mainstream culture for another reason. I’m so sick of whitewashed wellness culture.
Hallelujah. Same! Expect F-bombs and real talk with an intersectional awareness from a perfectly imperfect mixed-race, non-binary dude who came of age in the Riot Grrrl/third wave feminism movement of the 90’s. My intention is for these teachings to be eye-level and non-hierarchical in nature. I’m not a guru. I am on this path with you and will be in a learning and healing process side by side with you.
I am also more than happy to extend a discount to you for this course. I recognize that marginalized folks tend to get paid way less in our society and I want to balance that out in any way that I can.
I’m none of those things but just plain broke.
No problem. See the sliding scale options on the enrollment form and if none of those work for you, just write to me at ralph@ralphdelarosa.com. I’ve had to ask for so many discounts for workshops like these before myself. I got you.
You can also email me at any time with any questions or concerns: ralph@ralphdelarosa.com