I can still see the window I once sat by, doing self-metta (love) meditation in 2005. I was just out of rehab and very much still shook, frustrated, and broken. So I tried this odd thing I got from Jack Kornfield's book, "A Path With Heart," where one repeats phrases, almost like a mantra, like, "May I feel safe, may I feel free..." IT FELT DUMB. It felt useless. It felt fake. All sorts of resistance arose. It felt selfish. I thought I was getting it wrong. I wasn't at all. Kornfield had said just to keep going no matter what. So I did, not realizing that I was experiencing a purifying process, an emotional detox -- that the layers of jadedness and fear were being scraped off my heart and coming to the surface. And then about a week and a half into the practice, it spontaneously shifted. Genuine, warm feelings began to arise in me. I found alignment with the words and intentions of the practice. It was healing, beautiful, simple, real, and direct. I re-discovered childlike and creative aspects of my deeper self that I hadn't experienced in so long, I thought I had lost them. And yet, somehow, over a decade later, I came to realize that there were still parts of me that I denied love to: my inner critic, my sense of unworthiness, the anger that still manifested in relationships, my sense of hopelessness about the world. I had managed to withhold love from these parts of me because no one had ever shown me how these parts, too, were not only worthy of my kindness, they NEEDED IT to heal and find resolve and thus become less-sticky presences in my life. The "parts work" of Internal Family Systems therapy showed me exactly how to do that in the most surprising of ways. So, now, this is what I've written a book about and what I'll be teaching in my online courses: ancient, Buddhist self-love meditation combined leading edge Evidence-based Western insights on how we can easily access the depths of the unconscious mind and offer our deepest shadows the healing attention that's needed for us to get free. It's this seamless marriage of inner technology that has brought about a revolution for me and for THOUSANDS of others.