Begins January 16th, 2019.
Full course description and FAQ below.

18 weeks of
* Pre-recorded dharma talks (video and audio) 
* Downloadable guided meditations
* Live weekly coaching calls (Wednesdays, 8pm ET; recorded in case you miss)
* Handouts and additional resources
* Weekly journal prompts and online discussion forum
* Inclusive, non-hierarchical environment
* Optional 55 min. private sessions with Ralph
* Discounts offered to POC, trans-identified people, social workers, teachers, and anyone else struggling financially. No questions asked.

Chrysalis is a three-part series that blends Western psychology and neuroscience with Eastern practice and Buddhist psychology to bring about unprecedented, meaningful, lasting change to every arena of our lives. If you are experiencing repetitive patterns — be they patterns of thought, emotional cycles, compulsive behaviors, or patterns in intimate and interpersonal relationships, you’ve come to the right place.

Following the trajectory offered in Ralph De La Rosa’s #1 bestselling book The Monkey Is the Messenger: Meditation & What Your Busy Mind Is Trying to Tell You you will gain insights and learn meditations informed by neuroscience, somatic psychology, Tibetan Buddhism, the "parts work" of Internal Family Systems, yogic philosophy.

All courses are guided by Ralph's principle of radical non-pathology, the audacious notion that nothing is wrong with any of us; that the troubles in our lives are a paradoxical invitation to grow and discover genuine confidence.

You will learn how to experience serenity and genuine presence in meditation. You will learn how to open to the heart's intrinsic energies in a deep, embodied way. You will experience a new definition of self-love. You will gain crystal clarity on how emotions work, how trauma runs our lives, and how to access the kind of self-compassion that has the power to heal every part of you. You will dive deep into the world of your inner children and learn exactly what they need so that you can reclaim childlike wonder and creative spark, rewire distorted thinking, set and hold boundaries like never before, and get unstuck from unhealthy coping behaviors. You will gain the experiential tools to become your own therapist.

“The lessons and practices I have done are amazing. Ralph is an awesome teacher and I feel his wisdom and good intentions every time I listen and/or meditate. I give this course a 10, as I will definitely be recommending it to others.”
-Sheila, online course participant

This is a commitment to yourself and to daily practice.
This is a commitment to work within your limits, but to not back down for liberating truths that might be hard at first. This is also not a quick fix (because those don't exist). Rather, it is incremental work that is drenched in self-love. It is work that asks us to show up for ourselves in the way we long for our lovers, best friends, and parents to show up for us -- with passion, dedication, fidelity, mercy, honesty, forgiveness, flexibility, and tenderness. 

If you are ready to shift your life through an intelligent and dynamic system of practices, processes, and ideas, this course is for you. If you have ever wondered why therapy hasn’t really worked, this course is for you. If the changes you keep promising yourself you’ll make never materialize, this course is for you. If you struggle with an inner critic, anxiety, depression, and childhood traumas, this course is for you. If you are ready to move beyond surface-level mindfulness and into transformation -- what meditation was actually designed for, this course is for you.


“Your guidance brought meaning to things I've read about but never connected with and now see as healing and light. Thank you again.”
-Jeanette, online course participant

Phase One:
Embodied Presence, Authentic Nowness

January 16th - Feb 20th (6 weeks)

We begin by reclaiming our lost connection to the most primary aspects of our being: our soma (body), breath, and our natural state of open, curious awareness. In re-establishing a relationship to our body-mind in this way through meditation, not only do we activate neurological systems involved in mental quietude, creativity, intuition, and clarity; we open the doorway to working skillfully with our emotional world in manner that is both direct and warm. In recovering our ability to relax and feel spacious, we rewire our nervous systems with experiences of ease.

Practices offered: Somatic Meditation, Shamatha (breath) Meditation, 4-8-12 Breathing, Ninefold Clearing Breathwork, Setting the Breath In Its Natural Rhythm, Belly Breathing

Phase Two:
Opening the Heart, Redefining Self-Love

March 13th - April 17th (6 weeks)

Our entire lives flow out of our relationship with ourselves. Our outer situation is always a reflection of our inner world. Still, how many of us live in abusive relationships with ourselves? Or attempt to shame ourselves into improving?

In this leg of the journey, we open the heart to begin bringing about an inner harmony that naturally extends out into our lives. Specifically, we’ll be exploring iterations of lovingkindness (maitri) meditation, which has been scientifically shown to increase joy, contentment, gratitude, pride, hope, interest, amusement, awe, sense of purpose in life, enhanced relationships, and physiological health  (Fredrickson, Cohn, Coffey, Pek, & Finkel, 2008).

Practices offered: Traditional Maitri Meditation, Self-Maitri Meditation, Three-Part Breathing, Twelvefold Purification. Preliminary Parts Work Meditation.

More on the scientifically confirmed benefits of lovingkindness meditation here.

Phase Three:
Fierce Compassion: How to Heal Every Part of You

May 1st - June 5th (6 weeks)

Anxiety, depression, anger, worry, loss of direction, the inner critic, compulsive behaviors, painful cycles in relationships – believe it or not, these are not our enemies. They are messengers, sounding an alarm, calling our attention to what longs to be healed at our depths. We already have within us the intelligence, wisdom, curiosity, and compassion needed to heal such troublesome patterns at their very root. What we ALL need help with is accessing the natural wisdom within ourselves and some guidance in how to productively process the emotions that are at the core of every place we get stuck.

The final leg of the journey is a deep dive into the courageous, direct, and (most importantly) effective “parts work” meditation native to Tibetan tantra, Internal Family Systems therapy, Gestalt therapy, and the Soul Retrieval of aboriginal medicine cultures. We will work safely and methodically through self-governed processes rich with emotional intelligence and centered on self-compassion and personal empowerment. People tend to gain precise and life-shifting insights and resolve right away in this work. You will also gain evidence-based skills for continuing this work well beyond the scope of our sessions together.  

Practices offered: Parts work meditation and Heart-Breathing meditation.


"I just wanted to let you know that although I didn't do things when or how I was supposed to, I have gone through most of the course material (with the exception of the live group video discussions), and it is really fabulous-- SO SO SO SO great, and something I deeply need, even though I had absolutely no notion of what it was or how it would apply to me before we started." -Sarah

"Ralph is an amazing teacher, and one of the most direct-from-the-heart speakers I have ever had the privilege of listening to. I am more inclined to liken him to a musician than a teacher, because it seems like his soul is just pouring out, without the obfuscating bullshit that everything usually comes wrapped in when people talk to each other." -Sarah

“Ralph’s meditations are spot on and I land in a meditative state quickly which is all I want. I find his talks very insightful.” -Isabella

“I've already recommend it to my whole yoga teacher’s training class and about five other close friends.” -Amber


“Words cannot describe how grateful I am to have found such healing… Thank you so very much!” - Cheri

“EXCELLENT. Whoa, whoa whoa! So glad I did this, and I’ll be coming back for sure. The instructor and instructions couldn’t be more mind-blowingly amazing.” -Holly

“Deep and enriching. Inspiring.”  -Carol

“This is the deep self-reflection and clarity I’ve been looking for.” -Beth R.

“This will take some practice but I can already see great benefits for me and will return often. Thank you so much!” - Alex

“Powerful and profound.” -Skye

“Left me with tears of anguish, joy, and release running down my face. You have helped me open my heart today.”  -Caz

“So many cleaning and healing tears. Thank you for this practice. I’m feeling better. More love and compassion for a very hurt part of me.I will come back and do this again.” 

“Amazing! I’m just in awe. So much compassion and realness in the delivery of this practice. Left with peace and love.” - Sharon

Frequently Asked Questions

Is this course self-paced or are there scheduled sessions?


Self-paced portion: Each Thursday, you’ll receive an email with a link and a password to a private webpage that hosts a video dharma talk (20-50 mins), download links for 1 or 2 guided meditations for the week, and a handout to go with the lecture. There is also discussion forum with journaling prompts for the week and some suggested reading as well.

 Scheduled portion: Each Wednesday, there’ll be a live call at 8pm ET via Zoom. This call is our opportunity to share our experiences, ask questions, and for me to offer additional ideas and instructions for the week. If you can’t make the call, it will be recorded and shared with the group the next day. Note: Zoom is a free service that you do not have to sign up for. You just click the link I send each week and you’re on!


The online thing feels a bit impersonal to me.

 Much to my surprise, I have found the opposite to be true. People have gone deeper and have been more committed to my online courses than any workshop I’ve ever offered in person. There is something special about attending these workshops in your own home and on your own meditation cushion or chair. Furthermore, you’re not alone. I’m always here to answer questions and emails and the live weekly calls have also surprised me with their transformative capacity.

 I myself was hesitant about teaching online at first. My experience has defied my assumptions in a big way.


This sounds like a lot. I’m busy. What if I fall behind?

This is an immersion course -- but it actually sounds like more than it is. This course requires that you sit for meditation once daily. Then, you’ll just need to watch an informative and inspiring video at some point during the week, spend 10-20 mins journaling, and engage in one coaching call to connect with really cool people. It’s pretty easy to switch out time you might usually spend on Netflix/phone scrolling to make room for this.

That said, people do fall behind all the time and most people get caught up at some point. You’ll see a testimonial on the webpage from someone who didn’t do one of the courses until it was almost over and was very emphatic about how much benefit she still received from it.


What happens during the optional private sessions if I choose to add them? 

These sessions can be used to help you make the material and practices more specific to you and your life situation. People tend to use these sessions to go deeper with any emotional experiences and life changes that inherently arise when doing self-work. We can also address any auxiliary issues that come up in the course such as lack of motivation, trouble committing, problems in your intimate relationship(s), etc.

Honestly, these sessions tend to be very powerful for people. While I wish to avoid making promises as it is different with each person, I have seen people effect profound shifts and reach surprising levels of resolve within themselves in a single session.


I struggle with emotional issues such as PTSD, depression, anxiety, addiction, a personality disorder, or psychosis. Is this course appropriate for me?


This course was made specifically for you. As a trauma, depression, and addiction survivor myself, my work specifically speaks to people who struggle with emotional and behavioral disruptions and patterns.  

We will be moving safely and methodically through whatever arises for you in this course. You will be invited to move at your own pace and only do as much or as little as is right for you. You will be given revolutionary tools to relate to and heal the emotional activations in your life. You will also be given tools and practices for coping and calming down in the event anything becomes too much for you. Overwhelm, after all, is the enemy of healing.  

That said, the registration form does ask for some information that pertains to this so that I can be aware of all the issues and concerns people are bringing with them into the course. In some cases, I will request a follow up phone call to ensure this is a good fit, and in rare cases, I will have to inform someone that this course is not appropriate for them.


Do I have to sign up for the whole thing?

No. You are welcome to sign up for individual 6-week modules. This is a great option if you want to test the waters before going all in. There is a payment option to do so on the ENROLL NOW page.


Is any experience with meditation necessary?

Nope. We’ll start with foundational practices for calming tension and busy-mindedness and will deepen from there.

I’ve been meditating for a really long time; will this be redundant for me?

Nope. Even the foundational meditation practices we will be exploring emphasize a deeper somatic (bodily) awareness, breath techniques almost never taught in the mindfulness or even yoga worlds, and bodies of insight and theory that integrate Eastern practice and Western psychology in a new way.


I’m an atheist or adhere to a religion other than Buddhism. Will this conflict with my beliefs?

Definitely not. All teachings are 100% secular, do not ask you to believe in anything, and are well aligned with the core principles found in any religion: love, awareness, compassion, intentional living, and so forth. All teachings are also rooted in evidence-based modalities, neuroscience, and peer reviewed scientific findings.

I’m here, I’m queer, I’m POC, not able-bodied, trans, neurodivergent, or feel marginalized by mainstream culture for another reason. I’m so sick of whitewashed wellness culture.

Hallelujah. Same! Expect F-bombs and real talk with an intersectional awareness from a perfectly imperfect mixed-race, non-binary dude who came of age in the Riot Grrrl/third wave feminism movement of the 90’s. My intention is for these teachings to be eye-level and non-hierarchical in nature. I’m not a guru. I am on this path with you and will be in a learning and healing process side by side with you.

I am also more than happy to extend a discount to you for this course. I recognize that marginalized folks tend to get paid way less in our society and I want to balance that out in any way that I can.


I’m none of those things but just plain broke.

Write me. I will work with you. No problem. I’ve had to ask for so many discounts for workshops like these before myself. I got you.


My question isn’t answered here.

There will be a free, live info session on January 2nd at 8:45pm held online. Simply click this link to join us. Make sure to sign up for my newsletter to get a reminder the day-of and receive the link to the Info Session again.

The Session will also be recorded in case you miss it. You can also email me at any time with any questions or concerns: